Our Alliance


Together we will co-create your sessions.  This document discusses our alliance.   This will help us to stay focused on your goals.


In general there are four types of sessions:

  1. Relaxing and invigorating massage
  2. Reduce physical pain
  3. Include Mind Body Skills with the Massage
  4. Support for stress, trauma resolution, or illness.  

In each type , we establish an alliance between us.  An alliance becomes more important when we are work with mind-body skills, or stress and trauma issues.


This is an outline of the process and principles that will guide our sessions. These are not hard and fast rules. 


 In this document:

  • - Session Goals
  • - Our Alliance
  • - Your Participation
  • - My Role is to ...
  • - Edge of Comfort Zone
  • - Internal Awareness
  • - Cleansing Response
  • - Alignment, Repair Stumbles
  • - Speak Up
  • - Implementation is the Name of the Game
  • - Your Feedback is Essential


Session Goals

  1. To establish trust
  2. To establish clear goals and outcomes.
  3. To establish our process of communication.
  4. To focus on the present , move to the future, and briefly reference the past.
  5. To cultivate:
    1. Your strengths.
    2. New connection
    3. Reveal Blind spots - What is immediately in front of you?
    4. Your inner voice, subtle inner thoughts and sensations.

Our Alliance

  1. Acknowledge that mental, emotional and physical issues are inter-connected.
  2. Communication between us includes:
    1. Our intention
    2. Presence
    3. Spoken words
    4. Non-verbal impressions
    5. Subtle pulse of attention
    6. Gestures and body language

Your Participation 

  1. What qualities would your find  supportive in our sessions? 
  2. These sessions can be highly experiential and felt sense.
  3. They are a journey that bridges your external world and your inner mental, emotional, physical, energetic and spiritual self.
  4. Your willingness to engage and participate is the most important factor.
  5. You decide and let me know what flows and is comfortable or what is not.
  6. You are responsible to express when you feel comfortable or not, or at the edge.    Speak up!

My Role is to

  1. Hold a container.
    • For you to cultivate your inner wisdom and authority.
    • For you to decide upon our path
  2. Be a mirror.
    • Not to be an authority over you.
  3. To offer you skills and help you implement them.
  4. Help you stay on track.
  5. To challenge you either gently or firmly to cross the threshold of change.
  6. Be your champion and cheer leader.


Edge of Comfort Zone

  1. Our goal is to find the learning, growing, healing edge.
  2. First, the tactic is to build your resourcefulness within your comfort zone. Then, with your agreement, explore the edge of your comfort zone; as often, that is where transformation occurs.
  3. At times, the issues we will address may challenge both of us.


Internal Awareness

    1. The process invites you to increase your internal, felt sense awareness.

    2. Skills are presented to support you to perceive your inner states, feelings and sensations, emotions, beliefs, stress, blind spots, confusion, conflicts, memories, etc.
    3. This can be an easy journey, or a bumpy process.
    4. You may encounter happy, joyous sensations, or uncomfortable, fearful and startling sensations.
    5. These skills have simple steps, and they have more advanced steps. This  approach is related to, yet more technically specific, than meditation or body scanning.

    Cleansing Response

    A cleansing response is a stress response that occurs due to the therapeutic  process. It is often a normal part of the transformation process.  It is one way that the body learns and expresses itself, saying, for example,  'that was too much', or 'not that way'.

    If the body has a cleansing response, we will need to 'repair': which means to correct the treatment approach, provide education, and discuss our communication process together.

    A cleansing response is not common, but they can happen.  They are prevented with:
    Education of the therapeutic process.
    Understanding the reasonable expectation of the process.
    A good alliance between us.


    Read more: Cleansing Response


    Alignment, Repair Stumbles  

    1. There can be moments where our learning process together is bumpy.
    2. Sometimes we/I don’t recognize a rupture in our process or alliance until after we have stumbled over it.. 
    3. Therefore, we need an agreement to repair the stumbles and return to our alliance.

    Speak Up!

    1. Ask for what you need.
    2. Some of these principles and skills may be familiar, or offer a different perspective, or be completely new.
    3. Please speak up to ask for clarification of many principle, skill or their implementation.

    Integration after Your Session

    • Give yourself 15 - 30 minutes after each session to reflect.
    • Review your notes.
    • Practice the skills and exercises.

    Implementation is the Name of the Game


    This process will explore:

    1. How to support you to make changes in your life
    2. Your work/rejuvenation cycle during your day and week.
    3. How fully you engage your body in your life.
    4. We will:
      1. Track progress of skills implementation between sessions
      2. Track progress towards our goals.

    Your Feedback is Essential


    At any time, in any session please let me know what is working, what seems less effective, or what is completely off base.